What's it all about, Alfie? What Are We Meant to Do?

Good Sunday morning everyone.
Back in the 70's there was a movie and a song called, What's It All About Alfie? For some reason, the words are buzzing in my ears this morning. Reinvention is strongly on my mind. I'm in the midst of it... and truly, whether most admit it or not, everyone is. The world is a different place these days. What used to work, doesn't. So, it's off to the drawing boards for us all.

As I share the words below, think of what they conjure up for you.
Here are the words:

what's it all about alfie
is it just for the moment we live

what's it all about
when you sort it out, alfie
are we meant to take more than we give
or are we meant to be kind?

and if, if only fools are kind, alfie
then I guess it is wise to be cruel
and if life belongs only to the strong, alfie
what will you lend on an old golden rule?

as sure as I believe there's a heaven above
alfie, I know there's something much more
something even non-believers can believe in

i believe in love, alfie
without true love we just exist, alfie
until you find the love you've missed
you're nothing, alfie

when you walk
let your heart lead the way
and you'll find love any day
alfie
oh alfie
what's it all about alfie?

I invite you to the journey. It's never very easy. I love all that I am, what I do; and yet, I'm beginning to get the wanderlust ...
where should I be next,
is there something else I'm meant to do?
what about you?

Happy Sunday,
ann

Attitude ReInvention ... It's Up to YOU!

Good Sunday afternoon everyone.
I hope you are well and enjoying the beautiful Summer day wherever you are.

I started thinking today about how much most of us need to continuously "reinvent" our attitude .. sometimes from minute to minute, and certainly day to day. There are many circumstances that live out there in the world that can suck us down. How do we, instead, bounce, be resilient, reinvent the feeling along the way?

For many years, I was a psychotherapist. When I had a session with a client, I could always put my own feelings, issues, worries on the back burner, focus on the client and not even think about myself. That made me a good therapist. Well, in times like these, it's not always so easy to put myself and my "stuff" on the back burner.

REInvention is about tweaking, shifting ... changing. I often teach the principle that you can't feel bad and good at the very same moment. Think about it. When you're feeling bad, then you're feeling bad. When you're feeling good, then you're feeling good. And, you can choose (albeit difficult at times) to shift from one to the other. I prefer to shift from feeling bad to feeling good (but, hey, each to their own.)
In other words, you can reinvent your attitude .. in the moment, and shift.

Example: This morning, I was feeling a bit low. I've had some medication challenges recently and some side effects. I'm frustrated by it all and I'm a bit more moody then I like. However, I got a phone call from my son, telling me that he and his band were driving back to Austin in the wee hours this morning after a gig. A tire on their van blew, they swerved off the road. They saw some oil/gas on the road nearby and quickly got all of their instruments (and themselves) out of the van. And yup, you got it, the van burst into flames and completely consumed the vehicle. BUT, THEY ARE ALL SAFE!

My attitude immediately shifted from feeling low about myself to great gratitude for the safety of my son and his bandmates. My stuff was insignificant in that moment.

So, where can you look at your life now .. and reinvent how you feel about it? That's my challenge. We're seeing lots of tweaking of attitudes as teams contend in the World Cup games. We see it as people deal with difficult circumstances in these challenging times. We have to be responsible for our own tweaking.

Have a glorious Sunday.
Ann